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How to Get Rid of Your Ponytail Dent

Oh, that dreaded hair dent.

Whether your ponytail, sleeping weirdly, hat, or incorrect product application caused it, the unsightly, unwanted hair dent is a major issue that disturbs our curl pattern. The easiest (and perhaps most obvious) way to get rid of them might be by re-washing and re-styling our hair while it is wet, but we do not always want to put that time and effort in, especially if we have recently washed our hair. The good news is that a few products and tricks can help prevent and fix hair dents.

EZBASICS Hair Steamer 2 in 1 

The portable hair steamer works like magic. It makes post-work-out ponytail dents disappear, and pairing it with a product like U R Curly Sili-Free Hair Serum helps it better eliminate frizz. First, I spray my hair, and then once I fill the reservoir with filtered water, I aim the tool at the dent, pull the trigger, and allow the steam to work. Then, I will usually finger coil–or gently rake–the section with my fingers while the steam is hitting it to make the dent go bye-bye.



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99% of the time, you will see one of these on my wrist, and the 1% is because it is holding my hair back. In my honest opinion, these are the best hair ties a curly can buy–they are shaped like an old telephone wire to hold hair back without kinking or denting it. They also do not cause tension headaches that some curlies experience when tying their hair back with an elastic. If you are not using these and often get ponytail dents, try this one out and see if you notice a difference.

Use a refresher spray

How to Get Rid of Your Ponytail Dent

Sometimes, a refresher spray will revive droopy curls and finely remove a dent. Spray your hair thoroughly, re-scrunching the hair to bring back to its original shape. If scrunching is not working, do a quick two-strand twist or pin curl. Please leave them in for up to 10 minutes before taking them down. My favorite refresher sprays are OBIA Naturals Curl Hydration Spray, Alikay Naturals Wake Me Up Daily Curl Refresher, and Design Essentials Coconut & Monoi Coconut Water Curl Refresher.

A satin-lined cap

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If you’ve been wearing hats all Winter to stay warm but see a “hat dent” when you take them off, don’t despair because there is still hope. I like the SLAP from Grace Eleyae because it keeps me warm without disrupting my curl definition—some curlies even like to sleep in these to preserve their curls.

Don’t tie your hair back when it’s wet

How to Get Rid of Your Ponytail Dent
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Our hair is most manipulative when wet so this is a surefire way to add a dent in the hair because it will dry around the ponytail holder. If you can help it, wait until your hair is dry; if you must get your wet hair off your face, I suggest clipping it back in a ‘cinnamon bun.’ The hair will still dry, but instead, it should take the shape of softer waves instead of curls with a dent in the middle.

How do you avoid a ponytail dent?

Leave your secret in the comment section below.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

Mousse is a versatile styling product. Because mousses aren’t heavy, those who have fine hair that gets weighed down love to apply it to wet hair to enhance their curls and waves. Dryer and thicker curlies like myself like to layer mousse under gel on wet hair to help define our looser patterns. Mousses are also an excellent option to revive curl definition and fight frizz on days’-old hair without adding in too much product. Here are 10 excellent mousse choices for wavy and curly hair.

*Please note that not every product on this list is no-poo or CG method approved as not all curlies follow the Curly Girl Method. If you do follow this method strictly, check ingredient labels before buying.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

1. Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Frizz Free Curl Mousse

This multi-award-winning mousse is perfect for all types of texture to enhance curl and wave pattern while moisturizing the hair and combatting frizz. Coconut oil hydrates and protects hair while reducing breakage. Silk protein smoothes the hair for a soft, silky feel. Neem oil controls frizz while adding brilliant shine.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

2. Herbal Essences Totally Twisted Curl Boosting Mousse

Fans of this much-loved product appreciate that it does not dry crunchy, and they like its mixed-berry scent. The paraben- and silicone-free mousse boosts curl patterns, even in humid and damp climates.

This won the Best of the Best award for Best Mousse for Wavy Type 2 Hair voted by the NaturallyCurly community. 

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

3. Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk Curl Activating Mousse

Wavies love using this mousse to fight frizz and encourage their curls to clump. For best results, use this in addition to a little bit of your favorite gel. People with a looser curl pattern also like that this mousse encourages curl formation.

This won the Best of the Best award for Best Mousse for Curly Type 3 Hair voted by the NaturallyCurly community. 

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

4. The Doux Mousse Def Texture Foam

Curlies love that this mousse both smoothes and holds a curl for extra control over your curls, especially in high humidity. It works well for wash and goes and twist outs, and we’ve seen curlies rave about this product across a wide range of curl patterns.

This won Best of the Best awards for Best Mousse for Coily Type 4 Hair and for All Hair Types voted by the NaturallyCurly community. 

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

5. Original Moxie Pop Life Volumizing Mousse

This silicone-free, multi-action mousse moisturizes, strengthens and volumizes in one step. Antioxidants rejuvenate fine hair, and bamboo extract adds shine and strength to delicate, fine strands. This mousse helps to bring out natural texture and to minimize frizz.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

6. Raw Curls Organic Mousse/Styling Foam

Say hello to soft, shiny curls. This lightweight foam gives tons of body and volume, which is great for those looking to enhance their waves. With plant-based UV protection and cell-rejuvenating, antioxidant ingredients, your hair will stay vibrant and healthy, while looking its best. 

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

7. Design Essentials Natural Curl Enhancing Mousse

This Editor’s Choice winner has a unique formula with a soft-pliable hold. It dries quickly and reduces frizz while providing a gorgeous, natural sheen. It helps to define curls without weighing down fine hair.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

8. Eden Bodyworks Citrus Fusion Styling Mousse

Packed with botanicals including lime, orange, and acai, this lightweight foam has soft hold and is ideal for wash and gos or setting hair in styles. It nourishes, adds shines and keeps hair in place.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

9. AG Cloud Air Light Volumizing Mousse

Another botanical-filled product, Cloud is a lightweight formula that delivers body and manageability to all hair types. Volume and texure come from natural corn starch, tilia tomentosa bud extract, and sugar cane extract, while sweet almond, linseed, olive leaf and arnica extracts detangle, protect against heat, enhance shine, and help prevent frizz.

The Top 10 Mousses for Curly Hair

10. OGX Locking and Coconut Curls Decadent Creamy Mousse

With coconut oil and shea butter, this creamy mousse-cream hybrid enhances curl definition and fights frizz while leaving hair soft and moisturized. It smells great, too!

We hope you try some of our recommendations and let us know what you think about them in the comments area below.

And if you’re looking for alcohol-free gels, check out this article!

Looking for your next Holy Grail product? Check out the Winners Of The NaturallyCurly Best Of The Best Awards 2023

This article has been updated with new products and links.

The Curly-Wavy Guide to Co-Washing
Photo by stylist @nubiarezo

Why co-wash instead of shampoo?

Co-washing or “conditioner washing” is washing your hair with a conditioner or specialty formulated product called a “co-wash/cleansing conditioner” as opposed to using a regular shampoo. For those with any kind of texture, co-washing is usually a safer option because it cleanses our hair yet keeps it hydrated. The main benefit of co-washing our hair versus regular shampoo is by co-washing, we are not stripping our hair of natural oils which dries out the hair leading the excess frizz and unmanageability.

How often should you co-wash your hair?

How often should you co-wash your hair is a matter of preference. Some prefer co-washing every single wash and don’t touch shampoo at all; others will co-wash once a week and alternate the next week using regular shampoo. Some may only use regular shampoo once a month. It really depends on your own hair’s specific needs. I usually wash my hair twice a week, co-washing the first wash and using a sulfate-free regular shampoo the other.

The benefits of co-washing wavy hair

If I ever do wash my hair more than twice a week, I always reach for the co-wash for the additional washes. My reason for using a regular shampoo for one wash is I pile and pile products on my hair all week, even the days I don’t wash and I just like that extra clean feeling from the shampoo. Again, it is a matter of preference.

Better hydration, more defined waves and curls

Co-washing allows wavy and curly hair, which is usually dry already by nature, to obtain better hydration which leads to better curl definition, less frizz and more shine. If you color your hair, co-washing can also help maintain your color, keeping it fresh and vibrant where as too frequent regular shampooing can strip the color and cause fading very quickly.

How to co-wash curly-wavy hair

  • Double wash – I personally like to cleanse and repeat as I feel the first cleanse is what is removes dirt, toxins and pollution from my hair and the second is helping to hydrate.
  • Add water – I also like like to add a few additional splashes of water. Co-washes do not lather, and they are not supposed to due to their lack of sulfates, but adding additional water helps to spread the product through the hair and get your hair clean.
  • Detangle to distribute – I can easily detangle my hair with my fingers in the shower while co-washing. You can also use a wide tooth comb to detangle. Doing so helps spread the co-wash through your hair evenly.

Focus equally on the scalp and length

When co-washing, make sure to use enough product. Now is not the time to scrimp. As opposed to regular shampoo where you want to concentrate on the scalp as to not dry out the lengths, it is okay to co-wash your scalp and your hair–it will cleanse and condition in one. Some curly wavies, especially those with finer hair that gets weighed down easily, may be able to co-wash and skip conditioner afterwards depending on how hair feels. You want to make sure to really spend a few minutes thoroughly massaging the co-wash on the scalp, as the friction of your finger pads (don’t use your nails–it can scratch your scalp and/or lead to hair breakage) is helping to loosen any dirt and oil to really get your head clean.

The best co-washes for wavy-curly hair

1. Briogeo Curl Charisma Rice Amino + Shea Hydrating Co-Wash

Aside from that delicious, fresh Briogeo scent, this co-wash is fortified with shea butter, avocado oil, quinoa extracts and aloe with hydrate, enhances manageability, soothes plus cleanses the hair all in one. It’s creamy, nourishing and cleanses without stripping.

2. Nubian Heritage Indian Hemp Co-Wash

This is super affordable and insanely moisturizing. I really like this one because of ingredients like garlic and bamboo which helps hair growth and tamanu oil which keeps hair hydrated.

3. As I Am Coconut CoWash Cleansing Conditioner

This is the NaturallyCurly community’s Best of the Best award-winning cowash for all hair types and has been a crowd favorite for years.  It achieves a balance between cleansing and moisturizing, and works well as a detangler too. This won the NaturallyCurly Best of the Best Award for Best Conditioner Co-Wash/Cleansing Conditioner for Type 2 hair in 2021 and 2023. On the hunt for your next Holy Grail? Check out 10 Products For Wavy Hair To Combat Frizz.
What to Do When Hair Loses Its Curl
Our curl patterns may change at various times throughout our lives. There are several reasons why this happens. I will talk about some of the top reasons hair can lose its curl as well as some solutions that may help prevent this.


Hormones can change your hair texture! As we go through different life stages, such as puberty, pregnancy or menopause, some women see changes in the amount of curliness their hair displays. We have been unable, however, to source scientific studies that explain how or why hormones change curl pattern. It appears little research has been done on this topic. We only know, anecdotally, that hormones do change curl pattern. And we also know that there’s nothing we can do about these hormonal changes. Well, if you suspect oral contraceptives are altering your hormones, and therefore your curl pattern, you can choose to stop taking them.

Heat damage

Excess heat damage can kill curl pattern. If you blow dry with or without a diffuser or constantly flat iron your hair, over time your curls will suffer. This can be fixed in one of three ways:

Lay off the heat

Do a search on NaturallyCurly for “ styles without heat” and you will find plenty of ideas for beautiful wavy and curly styles that don’t require heat. If you really want your curl pattern to revive, stop using heat and stay far, far away. This will make a huge difference in getting your curl pattern back and allowing your hair to recover.

Deep condition like crazy

Babying your hair after heat damage will help the curl pattern come back and help the hair become healthier overall. Unless you are protein-sensitive, a combination of protein and moisture is ideal. Briogeo Don’t Despair, Repair Masque and Curls Blueberry Bliss Mask are two of my favorites.

Trim off the excessive damage

I will discuss haircuts in detail a little later on. But, for starters, trimming off ends that are excessively damaged by heat is a good way to improve the overall appearance of your hair.

Environmental Damage

Where you live can affect your curls! If you live in an area with hard water, you may find your curls are acting frizzier than usual, causing the curl pattern to not be as defined as it can be. Hard water can cause build up on the hair which can affect the hair’s health overall. One solution is to install a shower filter to purify the water. Another is to use a clarifying shampoo, such as Briogeo Scalp Revival, on a regular basis. If you are in the sun a lot, UV damage can cause your hair to become dry and brittle. To fix this, before going outside in the sun, don a hat or use a product with UV protection, such as Living Proof Restore Perfecting Spray. Windy areas can cause curls to tangle, get knotty and dry out as well. If you don’t have a hat or scarf to wrap around your hair while out, carry a travel-size refreshing spray to instantly detangle and feed moisture back to your hair right away so the curl pattern can revive. The Witch I Love Your Hair Magic Mist is a favorite of mine thanks to all of the incredible essential oils inside.


There are countless techniques for applying products to curl hair. No technique is wrong or right; it really depends on your hair type and the end goal you are looking to achieve. If your curl pattern is not as defined or bouncy as you want it to be, you may reconsider how you are applying your products after the shower to see if a different techniques does a better job of enhancing your curls. For example, some wavies find that raking or combing fingers through the hair to style is an absolute no. This separates the curls, ruins clumps and sometimes leave hair stringy. Smoothing products and scrunching can lead to better-defined curls. Others have embraced the Skip Curl method or the finger-coil method. Also, more often than not I see other curlies say they have to apply products to soaking wet hair after the shower for optimal results, and I agree.


Paying attention to ingredients is so critical for optimal hair days. Again, everyone’s hair reacts differently to ingredients so trial and error and seeing what works best for your hair is important. Following Lorraine Massey’s Curly Girl Method and avoiding products with sulfates, silicones and parabens have made a huge impact in my own hair and that of many of my curly friends. The longer we go on the “CG Method,” the more consistent and defined our curls have become. Something else to consider with products is the weight. If you have very fine hair that gets weighed down easily and you are using a product with butters and oils, this may be too much for your hair and can weigh it down, causing the curl pattern to stretch. Consider switching to lighter lotions and mousses.


How often one needs to get their hair cut is also a very individual thing and usually ranges from 6 weeks to up to a year, if your hair is really healthy. If you are applying your favorite products in the same technique as usual and notice your results are not as nice as usual, you might need a haircut. Even a small trim or dusting can make a big difference in putting bounce back into your curls if they’ve been droopy.

Chemical Damage

Relaxers and softeners will stretch out the curl pattern on purpose. This can’t be undone and these permanent relaxers must be grown out in order to get your natural curl pattern back. Coloring curls can also cause chemical damage. Like relaxers, hair dye will affect the structural integrity of the hair. If coloring is not done properly, curls can be damaged and hair can even break off. I strongly suggest if you really want to get your curls colored, see a professional, make sure they use a bond multiplier such as Olaplex and understand that even in the best of practices, permanent haircolor may still change curl pattern. Be sure to deep condition and treat colored curls very well since they are extremely fragile. I hope this article helped provide some solutions for when curly hair loses its curl. If you have any additional tips, please leave them in the comments section below.
3 Very Necessary Steps For Detangling Long Wavy & Curly Hair
Detangling long wavy and curly hair may take extra time and effort, but it’s totally worth it.
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Besides dryness, one of the biggest challenges for long wavy-curly curls are managing knots. The longer your hair gets, the more difficult it becomes to detangle. Tangled hair often leads to breakage, split ends and frizz. Here’s how to prevent massive tangles from happening.

How to prevent tangles in naturally wavy hair

1. First, make sure your hair is wet and has been deep conditioned.

Detangling long hair while it is can lead to excessive breakage. Wet hair strands are weaker and, if manipulated improperly, can run the risk of more damage. Deep conditioning is an important first step to protecting your hair health while detangling. Since long hair is also much older hair, the ends can be extremely fragile.

2. Next, coat each section of hair with a daily conditioner, not a leave-in.

Coat your waves and curls with a daily conditioner instead of a leave-in for added moisture and slip. Then, divide your hair into sections and focus on detangling each at a time. Turn off the shower head to conserve water, as this may take some time to complete.

3. Then, start detangling from the bottom, up.

Start at the bottom of your long hair, holding onto about an inch or so. Gently rake through until the whole section is properly detangled and then move on to the next section. It doesn’t hurt to detangle during the pre-poo stage but for more detailed detangling it might be easier to wait till you have reached the deep conditioning stage.

What should you use to detangle wavy hair?

Choosing what you detangle your hair with is almost as important as how to detangle.

The Tangle Teezer

This is a brush so unique, it actually holds 29 patents! While there are a lot of knockoffs out there, there is none like the original. It helps detangle long wavy and curly hair with no pulling, yanking or tugging and reduces precious minutes off detangling time.

A wide-tooth comb (with no ridges)

Some wide-tooth combs are a bit more money but pay for the quality. For long waves and curls, find one that contains no plastic pieces or unnecessary ridges which your hair can get caught or stuck on.

Your fingers

Good news–this tool is free. You can feel every knot and tangle with your own fingers so you can undo them gently. Make sure your nails are filed because you don’t want hair strands snagging on one then ripping. Check out: 4 Steps to Finger Detangle Faster

What if you’re losing a lot of hair while detangling?

If you are a long-haired curly-wavy girl, you probably don’t wash your hair every single day. Remember this when it seems like you are losing a crazy amount of hair each time but here is the thing. The average person naturally sheds about 100 hairs a day and that is normal. Because you don’t comb or brush your hair when it is dry, detangling releases days worth of shed hair. Combine that with the fact that since your hair is long, it may appear as if you are losing more hair than you really are. 
How to Tell It’s Time to Clarify (And 4 Shampoos That Work)
Co-washing may be a curly girl’s best friend, but clarifying shampoo should at least become an acquaintance! Even if you use ‘clean’ hair products, there are still benefits to clarifying every once in awhile.

You definitely do not want to over-clarify your hair, as doing so may dry your hair out. However, using a good clarifying shampoo at least once a month, or whenever you feel it is needed, will help in keeping your hair shiny, bouncy and defined as well as keep your scalp free of buildup, excess oil, and environmental toxins. At the same time it stays healthy, and optimal for hair growth. A clarifying shampoo thoroughly cleanses the hair, so the beneficial moisturizing and strengthening ingredients from treatments to follow can penetrate even better.

The frequency with which you clarify is really a personalized thing. Personally, since I’ve been trying to avoid non-water soluble silicone products lately, I’ve been using one once monthly, and I like to pair it with an intense deep treatment (usually Ouidad Deep Treatment Curl Restoration Therapy“> since freshly clarified hair will get the most of treatments to follow.


If you have been struggling with your curls looking limp, undefined, weighed down, and you are just unable to get great hair days even using your usual regimen, a clarifying shampoo may be the solution to that problem.

There are clarifying shampoos out today that have come such a long way from the ones of years past that were full of sulfates and would strip the hair of all essential moisture, leaving hair dry and brittle in the process. All of the clarifying shampoos I mention are sulfate-free!

Four favorite clarifying shampoos:

Ouidad Water Works Clarifying Shampoo

This has been the main clarifying shampoo I’ve gone to for the best few years. Aside from smelling like a delicious fruit smoothie, it thorough cleans and moisturizes my curls. I like that all the superfruits inside such as acai, blueberry, and pomegranate provide my hair with antioxidants to help fight free radicals and environmental aggressors that hit my hair daily from living in a high polluted area.

DevaCurl Buildup Buster 

Buildup Buster has impressed me since my first try! It is the first hair product to use popular skin care ingredient, micellar water, to cleanse the hair thoroughly without stripping. This cleansing serum is also infused with abyssinian seed oil and jojoba for additional moisture and shine. Whenever I use this, I notice my curl definition is defined to the next level; my hair overall feels significantly lighter on top of my head.

Inahsi Naturals Soothing Mint Sulfate Free Clarifying Shampoo

This shampoo smells like incredible like mint-chocolate candy, but the ingredients are all-natural! Aside from the excellent clarifying cleanse and sulfate-free lather, ingredients such as peppermint oil, nettle and horsetail extract, lavender oil, and rosemary help promote healthy hair growth which I am all about!

SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore Shampoo

This is great to remove any product buildup. The apple cider vinegar inside helps provide additional shine while Castor Oil promotes growth and Shea Butter helps keep hair so soft.

These are my favorites, what are yours?

Let us know in the comment section below.

How to Moisturize Your Hair When You Have High Shrinkage

natural hair with shrinkage

Why is moisturizing such a buzz word when it comes to natural hair? Regularly adding moisture to your hair will help it feel softer, become easier to manage and also become less prone to breakage which will allow the hair to grow longer. However, like most things in life, there are always exceptions to the rule. Every head of hair is different and what may work for some still may not work for all. 

What is high shrinkage?

High shrinkage hair shrinks to a third or less of its actual length when it is wet. Hair with high shrinkage tends to not form clumped curls and, instead, has a tendency to tangle and intertwine with other strands.

If your hair clumps up naturally, daily moisture is not an issue. In fact, it is a good idea to moisturize your hair every day. This will encourage clumping and reduce tangling by using water-based products frequently. Avoiding water based products can cause your hair to frizz and tangle, so water and water based products are your hair’s best friend. However, if your hair feels dry and brittle because water causes it to shrink up tightly, you are in the class who may benefit from not using daily moisture. Avoiding this complete, tight shrinkage is the key to preventing unnecessary tangling and breakage.

Here are some common issues you may face when you have hair with high shrinkage – and how to best get your moisture.

If your hair tangles when you wear it down

If hair is in a free and open style, this will encourage complex tangling that causes several strands to interlock when moisture (water or a product containing water”> is applied and the hair is subsequently manipulated with fingers, a comb or brush into a style. These are entirely preventable but when they do form, can be difficult to undo and need to be cut off which affects hair length goals.

If you have matting when you take your braids out

With braids, for example, several strands within the style will intertwine with one another. This is why some people can detangle hair then braid or twist it up. After leaving the style for a few weeks, the hair requires a lot of detangling during the takedown. If the style is left in place for long, matting is also a possibility.

If you wear stretched styles (and want them to stay stretched”>

If you can moisturize your hair once a week or once every 3 to 4 days, you will be able to keep your hair in a stretched-out style with minimal shrinkage which can be beneficial for curlies who want to grow their hair longer. You do not need to avoid moisture and water completely on high shrinkage hair, but you may benefit greatly from spreading out the sessions. 

If you wear protective styles

If your hair is usually in a protective style, you are not manipulating the individual strands on a daily basis. Your hair needs to be moisturized when you are taking down or putting in the style. The purpose of moisture is to help hair be more flexible and this is most important during manipulation.

What should you moisturize with?

Finding a good leave-in conditioner and regimen based on your needs is also key. Some curlies find success using heavy cream moisturizers in conjunction with light oils and light water and glycerine-based mixes, heavy castor oil or a variation of these combinations. It is about experimenting to see what your hair likes the best.

Consider the Maximum Hydration Method

The Maximum Hydration Method is a regimen that was created by Pinke Cube, an active member of Black Hair Media, and blogger MsDeeKay. This regimen contains multiple steps that aims at opening up the cuticle to allow moisture in, and must be done every day for one week (followed by every three days after that”>. It’s particularly helpful if you have low porosity hair. You can learn how to follow the steps properly here


The LOC Method

Another popular moisturizing technique is the LOC Method, which stands for liquid, oil, cream. This simply refers to the order in which you apply your moisturizer (liquid”>, followed by a sealing oil and then a cream. Some curlies swear by this order, while others find more success applying the cream before oil (which is referred to as LCO”>. No matter which you prefer, the key is to start with your moisturizer and then seal that moisture in.

This article has been updated with new information and resources.
How to Avoid All the Hidden Fees At the Salon

salon chair

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Have you ever gone to the salon and come out with great hair but a bill that was higher than expected? I have, too. In a perfect world, salon employees would be honest about each charge–but sadly, that is just not how it is. Running into this problem is rare if you have already built a strong rapport with your stylist throughout the years. But when going to a new place it is possible and highly likely that hidden fees can be tagged onto the price of your visit.

The friendly shampoo person or stylist tells you that your hair is too dry and needs a moisturizing treatment.

Or that your hair is damaged and it needs a protein treatment. They may say it will just take a couple extra minutes and your will be so much better for it. 99% of the time, these extra “add on treatments” will cost extra dollars. Personally, I find it worth it I will always get an intense deep treatment after my color but I know I will have a $25 charge for it (prices vary based on salons”>. If the treatment does sound like something you would like, just be sure to ask how much it is so you aren’t shocked after it was applied and it’s too late.

Should you be held responsible for asking about additional charges while at the salon?

The Allied Beauty Association in Mississauga, Ont., which represents the professional beauty supply industry in hair and nails in Canada, said to a caller inquiring about this situation  in very blunt matter,  “Well, if you were buying a car, wouldn’t you be the one to ask questions? The ABA (which does not represent hairstylists“> does not have an official policy. But Susan Solomon, its executive director, has said, “I would ask, ‘What is it and how much is it going to cost?’ ” This is simple enough but most of the time when we are at the salon we are relaxing and aren’t aware there can be additional fees.

As clients, we can sometimes feel intimidated asking for what we want.

Lucy Valavanis, co-owner of You Salon & Spa in Richmond Hill, Ont. says, “When a salon offers a treatment, they should tell the client upfront how much it is. “We want our clients to be happy, because we want them to come back.” She advises that if you hear the word “treatment,” though, it signals extra time at the sink. “It’s more than a conditioner,” says Valavanis, who has been a hairstylist for 25 years. “At the restaurant, you get bread for free, but if you order bruschetta, you have to pay.” 

There are other sneaky charges to be aware of at certain salons.

For example, you may be getting a blow-dry and you have extensions, or your hair is very long, thick and curly and you want it blown out straight. According the salons, this takes twice as long as a regular appointment. But Valavanis says in every case, the stylist should inform the client first. I have been hit hard with unexpected extra fees because of how long and unruly my hair is.

Personally, I find it to be a bit unfair, I cannot help the natural texture of my hair is not easier to work with so I am punished for it!?

There are a few other surprise places to be careful of with extra charges. One is  when you’re getting a significant hair color change. You can go for a consultation and be given one fee, but then once you are actually in the seat and going through the process, it may end up being more extensive—and expensive—than what you initially were told. Depending on an individual’s hair pigment, it might take two lightnings or more. To get the effect you want, you may unexpectedly need to add dimension with something like lowlights. Sometimes the colourist cannot anticipate these things. Another factor would be if the colorist needs to use more actual color than expected.

Bottom line: A salon should communicate properly and with courtesy to its clients. If you go to one that doesn’t, find one that does.

6 Ways to Use This Ayurvedic Flower On Your Hair Today

hibiscus flower for hair care

Hibiscus is my favorite flower. I love the shape and bright intense pigment of the petals. There are over a hundred species of hibiscus that are native to warm temperate, subtropical and tropical regions throughout the world! Aside from its beautiful appearance and having a nice scent, did you know hibiscus has tons of benefits for the hair too? It is sometimes called “The flower for hair care.”

In the Indian traditional system of medicine, Ayurveda, hibiscus, especially white hibiscus and red hibiscus (Hibiscus rosa-sinensis“>, is considered to have medicinal properties. The roots are used to make various concoctions believed to cure ailments such as cough, hair loss or hair greying. They are also used for multiple hair treatments.

Benefits of Hibiscus for Hair

  • prevents hair loss
  • prevents premature graying
  • lessens frizz
  • promotes hair growth
  • gives hair a boost of shine and bounce
  • helps balance the pH of the scalp
  • reduces redness, scalping and itching of the scalp
  • works like an astringent to reduce the oiliness of hair
  • discourages split ends 

The leaves and flowers of the hibiscus are used in treatments to make natural packs, masks, and oil to prevent and control hair problems. It provides an ideal protection against chemical and natural pollutants.

Note for blondes & brunettes:

Be cautious using hibiscus, as it can potentially stain, darken or add red tones to the hair. Your patch test will help determine whether this will be an issue for your hair color.

These 6 DIY at home recipes for treatment, tonics and oils have been proven effective in treating dandruff, preventing hair loss, and promoting hair growth.

Remember to do a patch test first to make sure you do not have an allergy before using Hibiscus.

1. Hibiscus Strengthening Pack

This treatment can help strengthen your weak, dull, brittle, and dry hair: 

  • 3 ounces of hibiscus petal powder
  • 3 tbsp honey
  • 3 tbsp yogurt
  • 6 tbsp aloe vera gel
  • Coconut milk 

Mix the listed items to prepare a fine, consistent paste. Apply this pack liberally on your hair, and cover it with a shower cap for 30 minutes. Wash it with lukewarm water. Use it once or twice a week to make it lustrous.

2. Hibiscus Dandruff Treatment

This can help with dandruff and also soothes the itchy and scaly head with a cooling effect.  

  • 1 cup coconut oil
  • 3-5 curry leaves
  • 3-5 basil leaves
  • 1 hibiscus flower
  • 1 gooseberry

Crush the leaves, hibiscus flower and gooseberry and extract the juices. Add the extracted juice to the coconut oil and bring it to a boil. Let the solution cool down. Apply and massage your scalp with it. Leave it for 15 minutes and wash off with lukewarm water.

3. Hibiscus Damage Restoration Tonic

This can be used on its own or also mixed with any other recipe for additional benefits.

  • Hibiscus flowers & Hibiscus leaves
  • Water

Take hibiscus flowers and leaves in a 1:6 ratio and soak them in water overnight and squeeze the flowers, to prepare cold infusion. Or keep it in the water for 12 hours and then boil it to make hot infusion. Use the strained water to wash, rinse your hair directly. Or simply dab a cotton ball in the prepared solution and use it like a tonic to treat your hair. 

4. Hibiscus Hot Oil Treatment

This recipe can help prevent hair fall (shedding”>, improves blood circulation to the scalp and encourages hair growth. It also can make the hair soft, smooth and bouncy, and makes the hair shinier.

  • 5-10 hibiscus flowers
  • 3-5 hibiscus leaves
  • 3 basil leaves
  • ½ cup coconut oil or your preferred oil like sesame oil.

Crush the flowers and leaves of hibiscus and boil it with the oil. Once the fumes start coming out of it, add basil leaves. Let the oil cool down. Strain and use it on your scalp. Gently massage and rinse off with lukewarm water.

5. DIY Cleansing Conditioner

  • 10 hibiscus flowers
  • Water

Blend hibiscus flowers with some water to make a fine paste. Smear this paste on the scalp and leave it for 15 minutes. Cover it with a shower cap. Rinse off with lukewarm water. Use a mild shampoo the next day.

6. Hibiscus Clarifying Shampoo

  • 5-10 hibiscus flowers or leaves
  • 2 drops of almond or olive oil
  • Water enough to make a consistent paste 

Blend the flowers or leaves in water. Make a fine paste. Add drops of oil. Use this on your hair. Wash off after 15 minutes with lukewarm water.


How the Curly Girl Method Makes My Wavy Hair More Defined

Whether you are just starting to embrace your waves, or if you notice that your definition isn’t what it used to be due to damage, the good news is there are things you can do to help get the most out of your hair!

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I’m here to offer some suggestions on techniques and products that may help based on my own past experience from reviving my waves after heat and chemical damage.

I am a big believer in following the Curly Girl Method.

The method, which originated as a book by Lorraine Massey, has the two biggest components in this method that myself and a lot of others find to be successful are to avoid products with any sulfates or silicones. Sulfates are harsh detergents that strip the hair of moisture and natural oils which cleansing. There are a ton of more gentle formulas to cleanse your hair with. Silicones may temporarily hide frizz and add shine but they are like a band-aid. The cause a lot of build up and over time can actually dry the hair out. Devacurl and Raw Curls both have specific cleansers and conditioners that are sulfate and silicone free and are designed to help define type 2 waves.

Although my hair personally requires heavier and richer products, so many type 2A and 2B wavies love both of these sets. The longer I go without using sulfates or silicones, the better my curl definition has gotten; I also believe my hair is growing longer thanks to healthy ingredients at my roots and less breakage due to inferior ingredients such as heavy silicones. Some curly girls do find water-soluble silicones to be okay to use, but that is a whole different discussion.

If you notice your waves disappeared and are damaged from too much straightening and heat abuse, there are three things you can do to help fix it:

1. Have patience. Your hair was not damaged overnight, it will not be magically repaired overnight either, unfortunately.

2. Quit using all kinds of heat immediately. Laying off the blow dryers and flat irons for the foreseeable future will make a world of a difference!

3. Make deep conditioners your new best friends. To help add hydration to dry hair which can increase the definition and add strength to repair the damage, one with a good moisture-protein ratio is ideal. My favorites are Briogeo’s Don’t Despair, Repair Deep Conditioning Mask, CURLS Blueberry Bliss Reparative Hair Mask and mixing Devacurl Melt Into Moisture and Deep Sea Repair masks together.

Product application also plays a huge part in how your hair looks!

One thing most curlies do agree on is applying styling products to soaking wet hair after the shower instead of squeezing out excess water first or putting the hair in a towel before applying products. Doing this results in hair that is less frizzy. Now for technique, it varies person to person and you can go by trial and error to see which ways work and do not work for you. Two popular application methods include scrunching the products into your hair which really helps to encourage curl formation and also raking product through the hair and shaking at the bottom (known as Ouidad’s Rake and Shake Method.

For more, check out my recent article on how I got my own hair to become curlier and longer here.

I also recommend checking out NaturallyCurly Co-Founder, Michelle Breyer, and her book, The Curl Revolution, which has a ton of fantastic information for all types of hair including techniques, applications, and even a curl glossary at the end.

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What Makes Wavy Hair Different From Other Texture Types
Our texture is most commonly confused and can be a tad misunderstood.

Naturally wavy hair is special. Though our texture patterns may not be as consistent as our curly and coily friends, once you learn to make the most of it, type 2 wavy hair is beautiful and so very unique! Sadly, our texture is most commonly confused and can be a tad misunderstood.

How can you be sure you are in wavy category? Let’s check out some characteristics…

Your hair appears to be curlier in the Summer and straighter in the winter–you can thank the summer humidity for that. Some wavy ladies (and gents!”> may find that in the middle of the cold, dry winter that hair nearly looks straight. Don’t worry, there are solutions below to help.

Your hair lies flat against the scalp with inconsistent “S” shaped curls

Have you ever picked out a clump of a perfectly defined section of your hair and wondered, why can’t my whole head look like this? Welcome to Wavy Land!

While some of your hair may be perfectly defined and frizz-free, other parts may appear droopy, floppy, and loose. Although wavy hair might not bounce the same way as curly and coily hair does, there are ways to really help define each wave.

Your hair pattern changes day after day

If you do not wash your hair daily, and especially if you throw your hair back into a ponytail while working out, you will probably notice, as the days go on, that your pattern feels like it’s getting looser. Super-defined Day one hair may wind up looking like the slightest of waves by Day six. The fun part of this characteristic is wavy hair’s versatility; achieve different looks without doing much at all!

Your hair may get weighed down easily

This depends on your actual wave type. Natural waves are broken down to sub categories of 2a, 2b, and 2c with type 2a hair having the ability to be weighed down with almost no product in it whereas some 2c types–raises my own hand–can be very dry and seem like it is unable to be weighed down even with the use of a richer masque and oil in a regimen.


I believe this to be one of the major challenges for those with wavy hair. Frizz may make the hair look undone and not cared for, even if you did style it and care for it that day. The right techniques and styling products can keep frizz to a minimum.

What can you do about it?

So you know and adore your Wavy Hair. Yay! But perhaps you are now wondering if there is anything you can do to encourage more curl definition? Why, of course there is.

Scrunch, scrunch, scrunch
And then scrunch some more. This technique is a wavie’s bestie when it comes to maximizing curl definition. After applying products to wet hair, cup your hair in sections at the ends then gently squeeze the section as you press upwards. Think of it like the motion of an accordion; repeat around your entire head until no more water is dripping.
Plopping your hair after styling and scrunching wet waves is an excellent way to encourage more curl definition while not disturbing the pattern you created while you finish getting ready in the morning. This step-by-step guide should help you get started on plopping.
Use a curl enhancing product. There are products out on the market now specifically designed to help encourage more curl definition in waves. Depending on your Wave type, you may or may not need to layer a gel over them. My absolute, holy grail favorite is Devacurl Wave Maker Touchable Texture Whip I haven’t found a product that helps define my waves the way this one has.
Shop wisely
Use cleanser and conditioner designed especially for wavy hair. Brands are finally recognizing us wavies as our own unique category. Raw Curls Organics Wavy S’Wavy CleanserConditioner, and Devacurl Delight Low-PooOne Condition Delight is made just for us! I have used and got excellent results with both of these brands. These specialized cocktails will help you achieve the right amount of hydration without your waves feeling weighed down. These wavy-specific lines also prep your texture with certain curl defining ingredients it needs. Shop our entire wavy collections here.
A lot of wavies I talk to love diffusing their hair, as they find that by doing so it makes the most of their definition and gives them the volume they desire. If you do so, use a heat protectant first. That way, the heat from the blow dryer does not damage your hair. A favorite of mine is the Briogeo Rosarco Blow Dry Protecting Crème.

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Sources: Curly Girl the Handbook Second Edition by Lorraine Massey and the NaturallyCurly Hair Typing page.

This is What Happens When You Straighten Curly Hair
This is What Happens When You Straighten Curly Hair

Heat and curls do not make a good pair. Flat ironing, using curling wands, and excessive blow drying can permanently damage hair. Straightening curly hair may be a fun change, but it does come with side effects. In this article, I will discuss what straightening does to curly hair, how heat affects the hair strand and how you can protect your hair from heat.

There are several different things that can cause heat damage to hair. These include using tools with a temperature that is way too high, using heat too often on the hair, holding heat on the same section of hair for too long and failing to apply a heat protector beforehand.

According to Rolanda Johnson Wilkerson, Ph.D., a senior beauty scientist for Procter & Gamble, “When you add too much heat to your hair, you are completely breaking hair bonds the same way you would as if you were chemically relaxing your hair, and the bonds can’t be reformed again.” Though occasional use shouldn’t cause severe damage when protective caution is in use, consistent heat abuse can destroy natural curl patterns and even lead to severe breakage by ruining the structure of hair bonds.

JC, who has a BSc and PhD in Material Science, writes on her blog, The Natural Haven, that “High heat makes physical and irreversible changes to your hair at a molecular level. High or prolonged heat can physically and irreversibly change the natural structure of protein.”

She further writes, “Hair is made up of a protein called keratin. Keratin in hair has a natural twist in it called an alpha helix. This twist is present in all hair — straight or curly. If you heat keratin to around 419°-455° F, the alpha helix starts to melt. This is a physical change and it is irreversible. Your hair will retain the shape of the melted keratin at a molecular level.”

“Your hair shows you this molecular damage by not getting back into its natural curl or wave and staying straighter. All damage to your hair is cumulative. Remember you have no growing cells in the dead part of the hair. So if the cuticle is broken, it will stay broken. If you heat treat and damage the cortex, it stays damaged. Your hair conditioner and gentle treatment can help prolong the life of the damaged hair but ultimately it is damaged and the damage will continue to progress,” she writes.

This is What Happens When You Straighten Curly Hair

How to Protect Your Hair from Heat

Here are some tips to protect your hair — as much as possible — if you absolutely must use heat:

– Do not let any tools get hotter than 400 degrees. – Always apply a thermal protector before using heat to help reduce the risk of damage. Three favorites are Briogeo Rosarco Blow Dry Perfection Heat Protectant Crème, Living Proof Restore Perfecting Spray, and Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen and Restore Thermal Protectant. – Use an intense protein treatment the next wash to help mend any tears, splits, and cracks to the hair cuticle. Be sure to follow up the protein treatment with moisture. Two suggestions for protein treatments are Aphogee Two-Step Protein Treatment and Ouidad Curl Recovery Melt-Down Extreme Repair Mask. – Moisturize! Since heat depletes the hair of all moisture, you want to add that moisture back in. Deep conditioning is a must. Jessicurl Deep Treatment is super moisturizing and nourishing for parched hair.

Overall, any heat applied to the hair will cause a bit of damage, but excessive heat use will permanently damage the hair and ruin the curl pattern. It’s up to each curly to decide how much risk she is willing to take.

If you want to stretch out your hair temporarily, check out this article for tips.

What Olaplex Did to My Hair

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Olaplex, where were you in 2013 when I decided to lighten my hair to almost platinum? I  *loved* the color, but I had to go a little darker blonde because of the bad breakage that was happening. But Olaplex is here now, and it’s helping to repair my hair again. Thanks to its miracle ingredients, I have high hopes of going blonder again in the future. NaturallyCurly already has an excellent article explaining what exactly Olaplex is here I simply wanted to share my experience with you.

Miracle Worker

Since Olaplex launched in 2014, it has taken the haircare industry by storm. Amazingly, Olaplex eliminates that reaction. When the hair is colored, the hair bonds break. Olaplex maximizes the strength of hair by reconnecting broken disulphide sulphur bonds in the hair.

Olaplex has been a consistent NaturallyCurly Editors’ Choice winner, and numerous companies have tried to create copycat products.

In this article, Diane Mary shared her first experience with Olaplex when it came on the scene. She continues to be a big fan.

I recently switched to a new salon that offers Olaplex. I have gone three times so far for color services. They are a L’Oreal based salon and color my hair with L’Oreal Inoa, an ammonia-free hair color that is supposedly super gentle on the hair. Bonus: it contains oils to help nourish your hair at the same time and feels gentle. The hair growth I have with this color versus the older lengths of my hair with bleach looks and feels significantly better. Because this hair color is so gentle, my stylist if I needed to use the Olaplex with it the first time. Seeing all these amazing testimonials online, I knew Olaplex and my hair were destined to be BFFs. When I went back for more color, I learned that my stylist learned more about Olaplex. Because I am no longer using bleach in my hair, she said she didn’t need to mix it with the color they use.

My hair just didn’t feel like my hair and I mean that in the best way, possible.

My stylist used Olaplex as a treatment prior to my color service. She applied the No. 1 Bond Multiplier on my hair, letting it sit for 5 minutes. She then applied the No. 2 Perfector right on top and let them sit long enough to penetrate into my hair. After she rinsed it all out, she lightly blow dried my hair follow by color application. Because my hair is so damaged, I always ask for a L’Oreal Absolut Repair Power Dose deep treatment after the color as well; it costs more but it is *good* hair insurance. My stylist says those with hair not quite as damaged as mine wouldn’t need deep treatment with the Olaplex.

Once I received the Olaplex treatment, I noticed such an incredible difference in my hair. My hair just didn’t feel like my hair and I mean that in the best way, possible. It felt softer, smoother, had less frizz, and went above and beyond anything I had ever bought before!

My hair after olaplex

Less Breakage

What I also noticed is my hair seemed to be “shedding’ less for the days following. Because I get my hair blown out when I get my color done (it’s nice for a change in Winter. Warmer months I let it air dry”> and I brush my hair while in the blow out, I see less hairs in my brush than usual so I believe the Olaplex is already leading to less breakage.

Take Home Treatment

Part of the Olaplex system is also the No. 3 Hair Perfector which is a take home treatment to use once a week between salon visits. This is basically a diluted, one step version of what you get in the salon, but still incredibly effective. My stylist didn’t have to tell me twice that this was a good idea for me to buy. The directions on the bottle say to leave it on for a minimum of 10 minutes, but longer is better after shampooing. The two times I used it so far, I left it on an hour. She also said I could sleep with the treatment in my hair but right now it’s too cold for me to do that- but I will come Summer. The No 3 treatment is small, only 3.3oz but it is so concentrated! I only need about 6 quarter size dollops- I apply it in 6 sections (1 per section”> combing it through my hair while massaging it in.

My stylist said not to use the Olaplex more than once a week because it can be overkill, so I am listening. I only wash twice a week anyway. But the more I use the treatment, the better and better my hair is becoming. My ends are less fuzzy, my hair overall is more manageable and I am starting to get some nice wavy curl definition back.  My hair seems to be air drying a little quicker too. Also, it my hair just has this shine and brilliance to it that I didn’t think I would ever have.

Achieving Lighter Blonde

I look forward to continue use of the Olaplex treatment so I can grow out the parts of my hair that have severe breakage and my hair could be thick, full and beautiful again. Thanks to Olaplex too, I may try to be able to successfully achieve lighter blonde hair in future with the added insurance of knowing my hair hopefully won’t get severely damaged again. I’ll see, right now my focus is on hair health and regrowth. I wish Olaplex was around when I lightened my hair the first time so I wouldn’t be dealing with the breakage issue.

Have you tried Olaplex for your wavy, curly, or coily hair? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

This article was originally published in 2015 and has been edited to incorporate updates.

Diane Shares Her Curly Girl Tips on How to Style Curls for A Special Occasion
Diane Shares Her Curly Girl Tips on How to Style Curls for A Special Occasion My bridal shower was on June 3rd! The theme, decorations and all the planning were a surprise for me from my bridesmaids, but I begged them to at least let me know the date, so I could come dressed and prepared looking nice and not show up in sweat pants and a messy bun! (Side note: that happened to me with a surprise birthday dinner a few years back!”> Since I don’t usually straighten my curls, it did not make sense for me to straighten them for my party. I knew I wanted to embrace my natural texture and I was fortunate enough for my hairstylist to come to my house that morning to style my hair. I also knew I wanted to wear my hair down since if I am being honest, I don’t care for the way my face looks when my hair is up. My hair stylist’s name is [Sage](”> and she is a freelance curly stylist and does house calls in the NYC and NJ area! She has many years of experience, including working at Devachan training as THE Lorraine Massey’s Assistant. My hair is [2C](”>/[3A](”>, high porosity and genetically extremely dry and frizzy. I haven’t used color or chemicals on it in over three years, and use mostly [Curly Girl Method](”> approved products, deep condition twice a week, regularly use scalp oils and even eat a healthy diet and air dry most of the time. I take extremely good care of my hair, and it still frizzes up more than I prefer. If you ever saw the memes that show great hair when you have no place to go and then frizzy, out of control hair when there are special events, that pretty much sums up my hair. For my party, my focus was more on length than super bouncy, defined curl definition so I told that to Sage. I asked her to please elongate my waves so they appear longer and the main focus was to keep my hair as close to frizz free as possible. Since I am a realist, I know my hair will never be 100% frizz free and that is what it is. Diane Shares Her Curly Girl Tips on How to Style Curls for A Special Occasion ### Hair Prep To prep my hair, the night before the party, I cleansed my hair with [Rahua Beauty Hydration Shampoo](”> and applied a very generous amount of Olaplex No 3 treatment all over. I let it dry and went to bed. I haven’t done an Olaplex No 3 treatment in a few weeks and was overdue. I find with Olaplex, every 2 to 3 weeks now is ideal for my hair. For more about my opinion on Olaplex No 3 for curly hair, check out my video here.
The morning of the party, I woke up early, rinsed out the Olaplex No 3 and applied my very favorite hair mask, [Briogeo Don’t Despair, Repair Mask ](”>with a little of the [Rahua Beauty Hydration Conditioner](”> mixed in. I used my [Thermal Care Hot Head Cap](”> to add heat, so the treatment would intensify and left this on for an hour while I waited for Sage to get to my house. Since the weather was not on my side, it was very humid and misting rain, I told Sage to go heavy handed with all styling products to give my hair a fighting chance against the weather elements. I rather my hair be weighed down a bit, then get too frizzy, but that is my personal preference. ### Styling Process Once Sage got here, we rinsed out the mask with cool water and got to styling. She applied [Jessicurl Too Shea! Extra Moisturizing Conditioner](”> using her “seaweed method” technique pushing the conditioner (which is being used as a leave-in”> in small sections adding in more and more water until it looked and felt like wet seaweed. This technique makes such a difference for how my hair behaves and how many days I can get out of a wash! We did this with my head right side up. I then flipped my head and she was extra generous with applying [Raw Curls Anti-Frizz Spray](”>. This product is super lightweight and added defense against frizz. She followed that up with [Jessicurl Oil Blend and Spiralicious Styling Gel](”> and scrunched a bit, but not as much as usual since I didn’t want a ton of curl definition. I then applied small duckbill clips, so my hairline would dry a bit nicer since that curl pattern is just not cute at all. She then diffused until it was about 85% dry. After that, she used [Ouidad Curl Last Flexible-Hold Hairspray ](”>to hold everything in place and [Raw Curls Pomade](”> on my front sections, ends, and parts of my hair that were still misbehaving and acting a bit frizzy. [Jessicurl’s Too Shea! Conditioner](”> and [Oil Blend](”> both have ingredients to protect against diffusing heat. Also, I do not believe Ouidad’s Hairspray is Curly Girl Method approved, but at this time I don’t have any Curl Girl Method Approved Hairsprays on hand. Sage left, and my roots were still *slightly* wet because we both agreed it would be better to not diffuse my hair all the way. About a half hour after she left I used a bit more of the Raw Curls Pomade and Ouidad Hairspray. I may have used a tad bit too much, but I just didn’t want my hair to start poufing out too much or frizzing way too much. I was really happy with how she styled my hair! My hair also lasted for quite a few days, even through work outs! Diane Shares Her Curly Girl Tips on How to Style Curls for A Special Occasion ### Here are some tips from Sage to make the most of your curls and styling them for special events: -“When styling curly hair, the wetter the better. The real secret is the first thing you want is a good leave in conditioner and the right amount of water. With the proper combination of the two, hair should feel like wet seaweed. A lot of people use less leave in conditioner and water than their hair needs. (This is Sage’s “seaweed technique” I have been mentioning a lot lately”> After this step, it is personal choice on what else you want to use, taking into consideration the texture of your hair.” -“Product ingredients matter. Silicone free and sulfate free make a huge difference. Always test products on your hands before applying them in your hair. As an example, if you wash your hands with a new cleanser and it dries out your hands, it WILL dry your your hair. Another example is if you put a conditioner on the back of your hand and it doesn’t absorb like an actual moisturizer, or it is sticky/tacky and leaves a residue on your hand, it is no good for your hair and your hair will not absorb it either. It will also be much harder to remove these kinds of products from your hair than it will from your hands.” -“We fight frizz on a daily basis. For special events when you need your hair to look it’s best and last through the day, I recommend going a bit heavier handed than usual days for added protection.” -“Definitely be sure to deep condition regularly the months and weeks leading up to the big day to help get your hair as healthy as possible.” This is a recent styling video I did using Sage’s “seaweed hair” technique and applying my products similarly to how she did. The main difference between how I styled that day and how Sage styled me for the party is I scrunched more for extra curl definition in the video.
My wedding is the end of September. I still haven’t fully decided on how I am going to wear my hair yet. I’ve actually been considering researching smoothing systems to try and combat my frizz more. As much as I rather not resort to that, my wedding will be one of the most important days in my life, it is at the beach, the pictures will last forever, and I really just want to feel my absolute best about myself and not have added stress that my hair is going to be frizzy that day. I’m a big advocate on people doing things that make them feel happier and more confident with themselves and if I find a system that is more natural and might work, I’ll take that into consideration. How do you style your curls for special occasions? Let us know in the comments below.
Can Products Actually Make Your Hair Curly?

Curly girls are often looking for new ways to enhance our curl definition. We see products, treatments and hacks that promise to make our hair curlier, but what do they actually do? Let’s take a look at what perms, curl activators and curl enhancers do to your hair so you can decide which, if any, of these are right for you. 


Perms have evolved tremendously since their heyday in the ‘80s. The actual definition of a perm is “a hairstyle produced by setting the hair in waves or curls and then treating it with chemicals so that the style lasts for several months.” Of all the products that I will be talking about, perms are the most long-lasting solution, as they last until the hair grows out and is cut. Unlike perms from the 80s, there are many variations now and you can customize how much curl definition and volume you want with them. Perms today also do not leave hair as frizzy as the 80s versions did. Since perming the hair is a chemical service, it will damage the hair to an extent, so it is important to treat your hair carefully, using deep conditioners and going easy with heat. Perms are also suggested to only do on previously unprocessed and uncolored hair, since using too many chemicals can result in hair breakage. If your hair is already damaged or not its healthiest, then getting a perm would likely exacerbate the issue rather than making your hair look better. It is also highly advised to go to a professional and not attempt perming your hair yourself, as this leads to too much room for error. 

Curl Activators

Curl activators help to support and enhance the curl pattern you already have. These are made for people who already have a steady curl pattern to their hair. They may increase your definition to an extent, but realistically if you have 2B hair, it will not magically turn your waves into 3C ringlets. If you have straight hair, then a curl activator will not make your hair curly. Curl activators are typically used for Type 3 Curls. Curl activators usually do not offer any hold and are meant to be layered under a holding product, such as a gel. A common ingredient in all curl activators is glycerin, a humectant which helps attract moisture to the hair. Curl activators can add shine and softness to the hair and also help prevent against breakage. When you wash your hair, if you do not reapply the curl activator, any increased definition you may have seen from the wash day when you applied a curl activating product will be gone.

Check out this list of 10 Recommended Curl Activators.

Curl Definers/Enhancers

A curl definer, or curl enhancer is most commonly used by those with wavier and looser curl definition. Curl definers can increase curl definition and clumping, sometimes have hold and can also help with frizz. Many curl definers contain protein blends to help strengthen the hair and set the curls. Like curl activators, curl definers are very temporary and any increased definition you see will be lost on the next wash day if you do not re-apply the product. Magnesium sulfate, which is not a sulfate like the cleansing ingredient we avoid, is a common ingredient in a lot of curl definers. Magnesium sulfate is actually epsom salt (like we put in baths for sore muscles”> and it is commonly known to enhance curl definition. Depending on what kind of hold you prefer, some can use curl definers alone, while others are better layered under a more firm holding product. Jessicurl’s Rockin’ Ringlets Styling Potion is my personal favorite curl definer but with my high porosity, very frizzy hair, I like to layer it under a firm hold gel, such as Jessicurl’s Spiralicious Gel.

Check out the Top 10 Curl Defining Products.

To sum it up, perms chemically alter the hair and can be used by any texture to increase curl definition for months. Curl activators are used by “Type 3” curlies who are looking for moisture and shine and often do not contain hold and curl definers are used by looser, “Type 2” wavies to help temporarily increase their own curl definition without any chemical damage.

Products like curl activators and curl definers will not change your hair from Type 2 to Type 3, but they can certainly assist your hair hold curl or wave pattern that you do have and prevent it from separating into undefined frizz. What you decide to use depends on whether you want to use chemicals on your hair or not, and your hair type.

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9 Frizz Fighters for Wavy & Curly Hair in Humidity

The extraordinary curly girl Lorraine Massey once said that “frizz is just a curl waiting to happen.” While I certainly agree, with summer in full effect and high humidity, some of us may need a bit of help to turn our frizz into the curls and waves we desire. Here are some awesome options to help fight frizz when the moisture in the air is not on our side.

9 Frizz Fighters for Wavy & Curly Hair in Humidity

1. Raw Curls Anti-Frizz Spray

This has been a holy grail of mine for years. I use this on wet hair after my leave-in and before gel, or as a refresher spray. This lightweight spray is organic, silicone free, and paraben free. It’s full of frizz-eliminating oils and extracts, seaweed microcapsules, and a patented Kerabead keratin technology.

2. Curly Hair Solutions Curl Keeper Original

This award-winning favorite not only tames frizz, but also adds a bit extra shine when applied on wet hair. I like to apply this super runny serum the same way I do the Raw Curls spray, after leave-in but before gel. For my high porosity, super frizzy hair, I find that more is more with this stuff in crazy high humidity.

3. Rahua Beauty Hydration Shampoo and Conditioner

This recently released duo was love at first use for my frizzy, thirsty hair. Developed with ingredients sourced from the Amazon and nothing toxic or unhealthy for our hair (sulfates, silicones, parabens, etc”>, the exclusive formula penetrates the strands to smooth hair cuticles, prevent frizz, and impart generous shine. Bonus, it smells like a tropical mango and passion fruit smoothie you’ll wish you could drink!

9 Frizz Fighters for Wavy & Curly Hair in Humidity

4. Jessicurl Spiralicious Gel

My hair’s best friend. If you like a firm hold gel that will leave your hair frizz free without stiffness or crunch, this one is IT! This gel helps my hair last for days, even in humidity or through intense workouts. It dries with a cast that scrunches out effortlessly and reveals healthy, bouncy curls underneath. For even more frizz control and curl definition, layer Jessicurl’s Rockin’ Ringlets potion underneath. And for those with sensitive noses, all Jessicurl products have unscented options.

5. Briogeo Rosarco Blow Dry Perfection & Heat Protectant Crème

Though this crème is designed for use with a blow dryer, using a little bit will help smooth your hair even if you air dry. Thanks to rose hip, argan, and coconut oils, the crème is able to banish frizz. It also has heat protection to help shield your hair from the harsh sun’s rays, preventing dryness and breakage.

6. Maui Moisture Smooth and Repair Vanilla Bean Shampoo and Conditioner

These products, made of rich vanilla bean, creamy cocoa butter and lush kukui nut oil, are designed to defrizz, mend, and restore unruly hair. Additionally, they are quite affordable and smell like dessert!

9 Frizz Fighters for Wavy & Curly Hair in Humidity

7. Curlsmith Curl Quenching Conditioning Wash

A little goes a long way with this co-wash. Not only will it minimize frizz, it quenches even the thirstiest of curls (like my own”> so that you can skip additional conditioner. Use this product to detangle, add shine, and leave hair feeling clean and bouncy.

8. Shea Moisture Super Fruit Complex 10 in 1 Renewal Frizz Taming Smoothie

This crème is full of antioxidants along with Biotin, Marula Oil and Shea Butter. Aside from calming frizz, it also aids with elasticity and moisture. For my own hair, I choose to layer it with a gel to give my styles a little more hold.

9. Original Moxie Hold Up Defining Serum

I’ve been a fan of this serum for years now. The silicone-free styler is full of botanicals such as quinoa protein that get the job done with just a little bit of product. When I use it, I notice minimal frizz, less unwanted “pouf”, additional shine, and better defined waves.

These are some of my favorite frizz-fighting products for humidity. Remember that every single head of hair is different and to find your own favorites, it is truly about trial and error. So do some experimenting yourself!

What are some of your summer favorites? Comment below!

10 Best Moisturizers For Dry Hair

Moisturizers are so important for curly and wavy hair. Our hair is more dry by nature and using products with moisturizing ingredients will help the overall health of our hair, allowing it to look better, feel better and even grow longer. There are several different ways you can use moisturizing products but once you use them regularly, you will feel your hair is softer and more nourished. I like to use them on wet hair before applying gel stylers or oils and then on dry hair every day to put the moisture back in my hair. Moisturizers come in various forms including conditioners, styling butters or even mists. Everyone’s hair favors different moisturizing ingredients.

My hair personally loves Aloe Vera, Shea Butter and Coconut Oil. Because my hair is genetically super dry and also color treated, my hair might require more moisture than others with looser and similar curl patterns. It is all about playing and experimenting with different products to find what works best for you. Here are some of my favorite moisturizing products.

Editor’s note: This article was originally published in 2014 and has been updated due to discontinued products.

Moisturizers for Colored Curls

Should You Wash Your Hair at Night or in the Morning?

Should you wash your hair at night, or in the morning? In an ideal world, I would wash my hair in the morning, let my deep conditioner sit for a half-hour, then allow it to air dry, no matter how many hours it would take.

However, unfortunately, that is not realistic for me right now.

So instead, I am currently experimenting with which time of day works better. Here are the pros and cons of washing your hair in the morning versus washing your hair at night.

Morning washing

Many of curlies get excellent Day 1 curls, and washing in the morning allows us take advantage of this. However, if you have to be somewhere and do not have time to air dry your wet hair, then a diffuser is required to speed up drying time. For some, diffusing can cause hair to be a bit frizzier.

Washing in the morning may also mean having to wake up earlier, which is not the best option for those of us who aren’t morning people.

Going outside with freshly wet, washed hair in the winter also doesn’t work for me (since temperatures below freezing may cause hair breakage”>.  If you must wash in the morning and don’t have a lot of time, gently squeezing out excess moisture with a cotton or microfiber towel can help decrease drying time without making hair frizzy.

Night washing

If you get home from your work day early enough, you may be able to wash your hair and have plenty of time to air dry before bed, which can be ideal but is not a realistic scenario for many of us. If not, you are left with the choice to wash and dry right before bed, or go to sleep with wet hair. Sleep drying, as I call it, is risky for me because I toss and turn so much. More often than not, I wake up the next day with curls that are frizzy and super wonky.

More often than not, I wake up the next day with curls that are frizzy and super wonky. 

The other issue with sleep drying is that our hair is so much more susceptible to breakage when wet, so tossing too much can lead to damage, as well as tangles. One method that can help improve the sleep drying process is to overnight plop. Plopping helps the hair dry and set the curls, but tossing and turning too much can cause the plop towel to come off.

Some curlies find washing and diffusing at night to be beneficial because there is not as much mystery involved with waking up. You know what your hair looked like before bed and may just need to touch it up minimally, if at all. Sleeping with hair in a pineapple can help keep the shape of your freshly washed hair. Satin pillowcases and/or satin hair bonnets are good for sleep also regardless of when you wash because they help to keep frizz at bay.

To sum up

As with all steps on the curly hair journey, you will likely have to try both to see which one works for you. If you are not a morning person and don’t achieve good results with a diffuser, then you may want to try washing at night.

If you have time to wash right after work, this gives you time to air dry your hair completely before going to bed.

If you like the way your hair looks best on day 1, then morning washing might be best for you.

I think it’s important to note that most curlies can’t wake up in the morning and walk out the door without touching up their curls at least a little bit. For some curlies that might mean fluffing out their hair after sleeping in a pineapple, for others that might mean re-wetting your hair to bring bounce and definition back to flattened curls.

Morning or night washing–which do you prefer?

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